What Really Matters in the First Few Weeks of a Placement

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A Team Leader’s perspective on how trust actually builds.

When a young person first arrives at Riverside Court, our Ofsted-registered supported accommodation, the focus is usually on practical things.

The room.

The routine.

The rules.

But those aren’t what shape the early days.

We know It’s trust.

And trust doesn’t happen straight away.

Adebayo, a Team Leader at Oasis Care, has spent the past three years supporting young people as they settle into new placements. Before joining Oasis, he worked in care in Nigeria and later in agency roles across the UK, so he’s seen different sides of what new beginnings can look like.

And no matter where it happens, the start tends to feel familiar.

Uncertainty.

Insecurity.

People figuring each other out.

For him, those first weeks set everything in motion.

They influence whether a young person begins to connect, whether reliability starts to form, and whether a placement has a chance to hold.

Starting Somewhere New Isn’t Easy

For most young people arriving at Riverside Court, everything feels unfamiliar.

A new environment.

Different people.

Expectations they’re still trying to understand.

“It’s just like anyone moving into a new space,” Adebayo says.“You don’t know anyone… you don’t know the area… so you keep to yourself at first.”

And that’s usually how it begins.

Some stay in their rooms for a while. Others keep their distance, watching how things work. A few might test boundaries early on.

There isn’t one way a young person settles in, and there’s no pressure on our part to rush that process. So the focus stays simple:

Make the space feel safe.

Show them what the area has to offer.

Give them time to find their footing.

Why the Early Weeks Matter More Than They Seem

What Adebayo describes isn’t unique to one home or one young person. It reflects something wider across the system.

Many young people arriving into supported accommodation aren’t at the start of their journey, they’re arriving after other placements haven’t worked.

By that point, they’ve often experienced multiple moves, disrupted relationships, and environments that didn’t quite hold.

They don’t arrive empty-handed. They arrive with experience, and that shapes how they respond.

Most placements don’t break down suddenly, they drift.

From the outside, placement breakdown can look sudden. In reality, it tends to develop more gradually. A young person might begin to disengage, pull back slightly, or respond differently to what’s around them. It doesn’t usually happen all at once, it shifts over time.

That’s why those early weeks matter so much. Not because everything needs to happen quickly, but because young people are already forming a sense of what this place is going to be.

Whether it feels different.

Whether it’s consistent enough to rely on.

Whether it’s somewhere they can settle, even a little.

While systems talk about placements, young people experience relationships. And those relationships often shape whether something holds or begins to drift.

The First Two Weeks: Everyone Settles Differently

Early on, it can feel like nothing is happening.

No big conversations. No obvious progress.

But something is shifting.

“In the first week, they’re just taking everything in,” Adebayo explains.

“By two to three weeks, they start recognising people… seeing familiar faces.”

That’s often the starting point.

Not long conversations, more a growing sense of familiarity.

From there, it begins to look different depending on the young person.

Some will talk straight away, asking questions and trying to understand the people around them. Others take more time, staying quieter and watching how things run before getting involved.

Early on, it’s often less about what’s said and more about what’s noticed, who’s around, who they see more than once, and who feels safe to approach.

This is usually where trust starts to form, gradually and often without much being said.

“If you introduce something and then stop, they feel like nobody cares… like you opened them up and then shut them off again.”

— Adebayo, Team Leader

Everyone Moves at Their Own Pace

That difference in how young people respond continues beyond those first few weeks. “Some will open up straight away,” Adebayo says. “Some will take time. Some won’t want to engage at all.”

There isn’t a single approach that works for everyone.

Trying to rush that process often has the opposite effect.

So the focus shifts.

Not on getting a response, but on how you show up.

Sometimes that means checking in.

Sometimes it means stepping back.

Sometimes it’s simply being present without asking anything at all.

Over time, that consistency begins to register.

And that’s what gives the relationship space to grow.

Small Moments Build Big Connections

It’s not always the big plans that make the difference.

More often, it’s the smaller moments, a drink, a quick conversation, or just sitting in the same space without pressure.

Adebayo remembers one moment: “He’d just moved in and forgot his phone charger. He was getting agitated. I just said, ‘You can use mine.’”

That was it.

But it mattered.

Moments like that show something simple, that someone noticed.

And over time, those moments start to build into something more.

When Engagement Isn’t There Yet

Not everyone engages straight away. And sometimes, even when the right support is in place, it still doesn’t happen.

This often shows up around things like education, training, or daily routines, things young people say they want, but then struggle to follow through with.

“We put everything in place for them,” Adebayo says.

“Education, support, transport… everything’s ready. And then they wake up and say they’re not going.”

On the surface, it can look like a lack of motivation.

But it’s rarely that simple.

For some, it’s anxiety that kicks in at the last minute. For others, it’s confidence, saying yes feels easier than actually stepping into it the next day. And sometimes, it comes down to trust,

trust in the environment, the people around them, and whether things will hold.

“It can be frustrating, especially when you know how much time and coordination has gone into making those opportunities possible.”

But that’s part of the work. “We can’t force them,” Adebayo says.“We can only encourage them… show them the positive side.”

Even if they’re not ready yet.

Because at some point, it has to be their choice.

Why Consistency Changes Everything

If there’s one thing Adebayo comes back to, it’s consistency.

Not once.

Not just when things are going well.

But over time.

“If you introduce something and then stop,” he says,

“They feel like nobody cares… like you opened them up and then shut them off again.”

For many young people, that feeling isn’t new.

So when someone continues to show up, even when things are slow, it starts to land differently.

“With consistency, trust gets stronger,” Adebayo says.“The relationship improves.”

It doesn’t happen overnight.

But it begins to take hold.

Creating a Sense of Home

“We don’t make it feel like just a residential home, We make it feel like a family… somewhere they can reach out.”

For Adebayo, that isn’t something you write down, it’s something you notice in how the day plays out.

Young people coming down and sitting in the lounge, putting something on TV, drifting in and out of conversation.

Sometimes they’ll ask a question that isn’t really about the question, it's just a way of starting something. Other times, nothing gets said at all.

It’s just being in the same space, without pressure or expectation. And that’s often where the real connection starts.

At the same time, there’s a balance to hold.

Young people are given space to be on their own.

Their privacy is respected. They’re encouraged to build independence in their own way, but they also know they’re not on their own.

“There’s always someone there if they need anything,” Adebayo says.“They can just come to you… talk to you.”

That availability matters.

Not because it’s announced, but because it’s consistent, it doesn’t come and go.

Over time, that steady presence starts to build something.

Not quickly, and not all at once, but enough for a young person to feel like they don’t have to handle everything by themselves.

And that’s what begins to make it feel like more than just a placement.

What Stability Really Looks Like

Stable placements don’t come from one big moment. They build over time, and not always in ways you can measure straight away.

From Adebayo’s experience, it’s rarely obvious when things start to shift. There’s no clear turning point where everything suddenly improves. Instead, it tends to show up in small changes.

A young person who starts coming out of their room a bit more often.

Spends longer in shared spaces without being prompted.

Responds slightly differently, maybe more open, or just less guarded.

Individually, those moments don’t look like much. But over time, they begin to add up.

“You notice it,” Adebayo says, “but you don’t always make a big thing of it.”

Because pushing too hard at that stage can undo the progress that’s been made.

What matters more is recognising the shift without disrupting it.

Letting it settle.

That’s where consistency becomes important again, not changing the approach too quickly, not stepping back too soon, and not assuming that progress is fixed.

Because for many young people, stability isn’t something they’ve experienced consistently.

So when things start to feel different, it can take time for that to feel safe.

Gradually, something begins to hold.

Not perfectly, but enough.

A young person starts to expect that staff will still be there the next day.

That the support won’t suddenly stop.

That the environment won’t shift around them again.

And that’s often the point where things begin to stabilise.

Not because everything is resolved, but because there’s now something steady to build from.

The People Behind the Process

After three years at Oasis, now working as a Team Leader, Adebayo has seen this process play out in different ways, with different young people. But the core of it stays the same.

It’s not about getting everything right straight away. It’s about being steady.

Showing up when you said you would. Following through on the small things. Being someone a young person can come back to, even if they didn’t engage the first time.

For Adebayo, that’s what the early weeks are really about.

Not progress you can easily report on, but trust that builds slowly, over time.

And once that trust starts to take hold, even just a little, it changes the starting point.

Because from there, a young person isn’t figuring things out on their own anymore.

They know someone’s there.

And more importantly, that they’re still going to be there.